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You are not special

IIn the West, we are so often told we are special. We are different from the others. We have extraordinary potential. We can do something truly great.

The intent is good: Our parents, friends, and teachers want us to feel capable of great things. They want us to push past our insecurities and self-imposed limitations so we can shine as brightly as possible. They love us and see something remarkable in us.

But in my experience, this usually causes more insecurity and shame than empowerment. It creates expectations that we can never fulfill. It makes us feel like a disappointment to those who have deemed us special. Ultimately, it leaves us with a deep sense of inadequacy for never living up to that label.

Here’s my truth: You are not special.

You are unique. You are beautiful. You are whole. Just like everyone else.

Put down any sense of needing to live up to something. Set yourself free from these impossible standards and expectations.

Embrace the reality that you are just one flawed, limited human, humbly offering what you actually have to offer – nothing more, nothing less.


Coach, writer, and recovering hustle hero. I help purpose-driven humans do good in the world in dark times - without the burnout.


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