Who you really are

My coaching work often boils down to helping people uncover, inhabit, and express who they really are. By transcending whatever limiting illusion we might be living from and tapping into our “true” self, we can release ourselves from the burdens, shame, and confusion that cloud us.

Sometimes we over-identify with our actions and then can come to identify more closely with the values and intent underneath those actions. Sometimes we over-identify with our values (and ego generally) and then can come to identify more closely with the awareness underneath them.

And yet, even as we identify with this broader awareness within and around us, most spiritual traditions point to something beyond even still. We can come to see more clearly that this unique “self” we inhabit is just a drop in the ocean of all existence. We are one with the universe. We are creation itself.

Yes, we can get closer to our “true” self in practical ways. And this can be totally life-changing. This has been deeply profound and transformative for me.

But what I perhaps love even more about this work is that there seem to always be deeper, more expansive aspects of ourselves to uncover and operate from. There is always another horizon to explore.


Coach, writer, and recovering hustle hero. I help purpose-driven humans do good in the world in dark times - without the burnout.


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