Humans have a miraculous ability to envision new, better worlds. We constantly compare how the world is now to how we think it could be. No other creature we know of can do this.
In many ways, this is an incredible gift. It inspires us to dream up and build a brighter future and constantly evolve ourselves. It often offers a sense of meaning, purpose, and possibility.
But this gift is also the source of a lot of unnecessary pain. We can so easily imagine the world that we think we should have or is supposed to be. It can be infuriating and discouraging to see how far away we are from this idealized conception of our minds. For many of us, this feeling is now perhaps stronger than ever, given the daily barrage of foolishness and cruelty from our supposed leaders.
My invitation is to keep dreaming and earnestly building that better world of your dreams. That is meaningful, important work. But perhaps you can let go of the idea that the world is supposed to be the way you want it to be. The world isn’t actually supposed to be anything. It is what it is. It is whatever we decide to make it.
Once we stop believing we are owed the world we want or are somehow shameful or broken for not collectively realizing the world we believe should be, we offer ourselves a greater sense of peace and acceptance that can be an important balm in these troubled times. But we also free up the energy we need to do something meaningful to create that brighter future.
Could and want inspire. Should and supposed to only bring us suffering.
