We are not here to heal
We sometimes overly center the role of healing in our lives. It’s as if we believe the whole point of our life is to heal our emotional wounds, that healing is the end goal. It’s not.
Antiheroes blog
Insights on inner transformation and outer contribution from my coaching practice.
Pain is a path to purpose
Perhaps the most transcendent and highest form of healing our own emotional wounds is to offer to the world what we needed but didn’t get.
Coming clean
Every time I find some excuse not to do the thing, I am just showing that I don’t actually fully trust myself. Every time I show up and put in the work, the universe nudges me along toward what I most want for myself.
Lower the bar
Feeling successful has an alluring, habit-forming quality. You will naturally be drawn to do whatever makes you feel successful and proud of yourself.
Pain is not the enemy
It’s not actually our pain that stands in our way. It’s our wounds that hinder us. It’s our wounds that need to be healed. Our pain is simply the loyal messenger that will keep delivering its message until it is heeded.
Big life update
At the end of last year, Sara and I decided to end our romantic relationship. But we haven’t separated in the usual sense. We still live together, raise our kids together, and hope to do so for the foreseeable future.
Never be closing
In the 1992 film Glengarry Glen Ross, Alec Baldwin’s character famously says “Always Be Closing,” advocating a relentless, aggressive approach to finalizing business sales. I’m here to advocate for the opposite approach.
You don’t have to be goal-oriented
Through our fixation on goals, we become prisoners – to our insatiable appetite for that next high, to external forces beyond our control, and to our need for something external to validate us.
New email system, old habits
It’s with some shame and embarrassment that I’m switching websites and email delivery systems again.
The dual nature of genius
Genius has a dual nature, much like how light acts both as a particle and a wave. It is our unique self and the call of the universe within us.